Yale published a nice report a little over a year ago. Their report that
Im going to present is at this point very, very consistent with the general teaching
in pediatrics. What they showed was that infants and toddlers first days, months, years
have a decisive impact on the formation of neural connections in the developing brain.
This is a critical aspect of understanding your children. When a child is born, they have
not developed all the mature connections that you have as adults. They have to develop
those through their learning experiences as a child. Research showed that parents and
caregivers can help a childs brain develop to its full potential if the child is
loved and receives attention through talking, reading, playing. However, if a child is
abused or neglected, problems may ensue that persist a lifetime.
One of the most distressing parts to me is to
realize that many of your children, even dysfunctional, are extremely bright. How are they
being treated? Are they being treated like a child who might be in pain and hurting? Are
they being treated like a child who is struggling because they are totally frustrated? Or
are they being treated as a behavioral problem and lets discipline them?